We’re always hearing that we could be having
better sex, a better orgasm, or a better
relationship. But how often do we actually hear
the nitty-gritty details of how we might actually
achieve those things? Angel Bea has enlisted
Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist
based in San Francisco, to help us out with the specifics. This week’s topic: How to masturbate.
better sex, a better orgasm, or a better
relationship. But how often do we actually hear
the nitty-gritty details of how we might actually
achieve those things? Angel Bea has enlisted
Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist
based in San Francisco, to help us out with the specifics. This week’s topic: How to masturbate.
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Examine Your FeelingsIt sounds like you’re not opposed to
masturbating, but that you may still have some conflicting feelings about it. It’s worth taking the
time to explore your beliefs about masturbation.
Women who find themselves particularly hesitant may want to ask themselves questions like,
“where did these feelings about masturbation
come from?” and “do I want to let these beliefs
continue to operate in my life?” If you find you
have a real mental block about masturbation,
then you might want to examine where that
comes from with a professional.
Learn The Basics
Women masturbate in a lot of different ways, but a lot of my clients have found it useful to get a sense of what the process tends to entail. In general, most women masturbate by stimulating their clitorises.
Research has found that women are most likely to reach orgasm by stroking diagonally across the clitoris. Women usually need a fair amount of time to warm up, and require repetitive, consistent stimulation to climax. On average, women take about 20 minutes to orgasm.
Specific Techniques To Try
So let’s get down to the real nitty-gritty. How exactly are you supposed to touch yourself? Below I’ve compiled a list of strokes to try.
Try a diagonal stroke. Imagine that there’s a clock over your clitoris, with the 12 closer to your anus, and the 6 closer to your belly button. Stroke from 1 to 7 if you’re a righty, or 11 to 5 if you’re a lefty.
Use one finger to run circles around your clitoris, without touching it directly.
Try rubbing your clitoris with one finger, two fingers, three fingers, four fingers, and your entire hand.
Using two fingers, place one on each side of your clitoris. Rub up and down. You can also try side to side.
Tap your clitoris with one or two fingers.
Use the lightest possible touch to gently flick over your clitoris with one finger.
Keep your underwear on (you can also try this with a rougher fabric like jeans) and rub your clitoris through the fabric.
Pull your outer labia together and rub your clitoris through the folds of skin.
After a few weeks of experimentation, start
seeing if you can reach orgasm. Give yourself
30-40 minute blocks of time so you don’t feel
rushed. Take your time getting your entire body
warmed up with light, feathery touches. Tease yourself a bit.
have fun ladies :)
Research has found that women are most likely to reach orgasm by stroking diagonally across the clitoris. Women usually need a fair amount of time to warm up, and require repetitive, consistent stimulation to climax. On average, women take about 20 minutes to orgasm.
Specific Techniques To Try
So let’s get down to the real nitty-gritty. How exactly are you supposed to touch yourself? Below I’ve compiled a list of strokes to try.
Try a diagonal stroke. Imagine that there’s a clock over your clitoris, with the 12 closer to your anus, and the 6 closer to your belly button. Stroke from 1 to 7 if you’re a righty, or 11 to 5 if you’re a lefty.
Use one finger to run circles around your clitoris, without touching it directly.
Try rubbing your clitoris with one finger, two fingers, three fingers, four fingers, and your entire hand.
Using two fingers, place one on each side of your clitoris. Rub up and down. You can also try side to side.
Tap your clitoris with one or two fingers.
Use the lightest possible touch to gently flick over your clitoris with one finger.
Keep your underwear on (you can also try this with a rougher fabric like jeans) and rub your clitoris through the fabric.
Pull your outer labia together and rub your clitoris through the folds of skin.
After a few weeks of experimentation, start
seeing if you can reach orgasm. Give yourself
30-40 minute blocks of time so you don’t feel
rushed. Take your time getting your entire body
warmed up with light, feathery touches. Tease yourself a bit.
have fun ladies :)
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